Okay so Valentine's Day is long gone, but unfortunately living in a town where people have crap to talk about apparently, I was suprised by the questions I receive nearly 2 weeks after the holiday and the reaction to my answers.
The first one I will talk about is the good old fashioned. "So did your boyfriend do anything nice for you on Valentines Day?"
Last night at coffee I went out for a smoke and this woman asked me that. I replied with "he does nice things for me everyday." She frowned and asked "So nothing special?" I shrugged and laughed. "Well that's terrible, I would be upset if my boyfriend didn't at least get me flowers on valentines day."
At this point I cock my head and think before I speak. So I asked her, "Well did your boyfriend do anything special for you today?" She looked at me confused and said, "No, why?" I laughed and replied, "Well today my boyfriend bought me a gift and took me to the movies and then here for coffee afterward." She put out her cigarette and mumbled something like "Whatever." Before going inside.
Something a lot of people don't get is why I don't care about a commercialized holiday like Valentine's Day. I feel like forcing couples to make it a day of love is stupid, love should be given freely whenever the urge strikes, not because the calendar says to do so. So I didn't get flowers and candy on February 14th. Alex randomly gives me gifts, and takes me out without the constraints of what day it is. And I feel it makes it all the more special. Alex has his own version of romantic, which suits someone like me who is pretty low maintenance. I am not usually big on gifts and flowers and crap like that. so he does nice things for me in a way he knows I'll enjoy. Taking me to the movies, and buying us new video games. That''s how we roll.
This second one is one I actually get more around valentine's day, though I get it year round too. "Well since you're a witch, can you cast a love spell for me?"
"I don't believe in love spells."
This is one that I have thought long and hard about my whole life, and to be honest, love spells are my least favorite topic. But let me be more specific. I don't believe in love spells to make someone else love you. I do believe in love spells that is meant to create self love within yourself or to assist in expressing love for others. But that is a whole different concept than what people want.
People seem to want you to "Make someone love them." It doesn't work that way. And even if I wanted to and could, I wouldn't because love is a naturally occurring thing and to force it into existence would take away the beauty that is love, and make it something fake and alien. I would choose real love over fake love every single time. Love is friendship caught fire. If it doesn't ignite it wasn't meant to be.
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